5/10/10 Another year older, my daughter not me!

It has been a few days since I had anything to report. Dad made it through his surgery well, and in good spirits. We are waiting for him to, for lack of a better way to say this, pass gas. Once his bowels start working again he can have the NG tube out and start eating again.  I haven’t seen or talked to him since last night. He has had many visitors from his church. It is wonderful that he has such loving and supportive friends. He will need them for the battle that lies ahead. I’ve been doing some research online about natural cures for colon cancer. Seems that a diet rich in Vitamins A, C, D, E, Selenium, Calcium and Omega 3 , broccoli, cabbage, brussels sprouts, tomatoes, are good in not only preventing, but improving the lifespan of cancer survivors. If his oncologist says it is okay I’m going to pump him up with these supplement. If it doesn’t do any harm maybe it will do some good.  (this blog is not intended to diagnosis or treat any medical problem see your doctor for proper treatment)

My mother-in-law has abandoned us. She was scheduled to watch the kids saturday while my husband and I worked. I made the mistake of leaving oven mitts on top of my rotisserie oven which caused a small fire in my kitchen. (definately a result of my being over stressed! ) Maurice, my husbands newphew, put the fire out, no harm no foul. Dinner was saved. Apparently this sent her over the edge, because when she arrived, late again, she cussed out my kids and told me over the phone that I would have to put Alex my 3yo in daycare and that she wasn’t coming back. I wonder if this has anything to do with the $700 she wanted me to lend her? I guess she didn’t want me to tell my husband about it but being my husband I tell him just about everything.( even though we havent been getting along very well lately either)

 Well needless to say this put me in a tailspin.  I couldn’t take it anymore. I cried every time someone gave me a hug, or asked my how I was doing. I am definately not handling this crisis well. My mother-in-law was supposed to watch the kids while we were in Arizona next week.

My daughter and I have been looking for a place for her to stay since she and my husband don’t get along so well, and she has a habit of making bad choices in the past. She is trying to get her life together.  We found her a nice three bedroom two bath home. We close Friday. This is a miricle because I hadn’t planned on her moving out so soon.  But due to some family foolishness she was homeless five months earlier then I had planned. This couldn’t have come at a worse time for me, yet I was able to secure the funds necessessary to purchase the house in full with no penaties for early withdrawl.  She turned 18 today. How time sure flies.

If you never believed in miracles you should now. Not only did I find my daughter a place to stay on short notice,  I’ve also  found someone to not only watch the kids while we are out of town, but to babysit full time, a daughter of a former neighbor of mine. My kids grew up with her and she is a very nice young lady.

My boss has been very understanding regarding the crap I have been going through lately. My workmates give me a shoulder to cry on , and have been checking on my dad everyday. Everyone at my hospital loves Poppa  just as much as I do. He and Sandy have set up a standing golf date for when he recouperates.  They’ve scheduled it for the 22nd of whatever month he feels like playing. I hope they get to go play very soon. 

I told my bestfriend Nicole the other day that I’m not as strong as people think I am. I don’t think I can take much more. My friends Nicole, Malonda, Becky, Lesa have been my rocks throughout this crisis. When this is all over I’m taking them out for a spa day!

 My writing is definately suffering these days as I have spend more time grieving, hoping, praying waiting, and planning than writing. I hope Arizona changes that. The time I spend away from the chaos of this house will allow me to focus on the things important to me for a change.

God Bless,



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